Chapter Seven: The Problem of Sex

My Problem With God Is…

Sunday, October 6

“Any limit on our behavior is seen as a violation of our basic human rights as individuals. We believe we have the right to use our bodies in whatever way we want, and this is the ultimate expression of our freedom and our autonomy”, writes Clark. Because of this, our current, western culture has abandoned God’s design, and the Bible’s direction regarding sex. Sadly, the church hasn’t helped over the years as it has shared poor theology and added to the confusion. But God’s design is clear. Sex is good, is of God, is designed for marriage and in marriage, is temporal and pleasurable. Yet, we continue to move away from God’s design, and now are confused with sexuality, personhood, marriage and more. Sex, as designed by God and for us here on Earth, should be glorious and point “to the eternal delight of soul that we will have in heaven.”

Getting Started:

  1. Sex can be a polarizing topic both in the church, and out. What do you remember being taught about sex during your upbringing? Did the “church’s” view on sex play a role in what you were taught?
  2. How has the cultural discussion about sex changed in your lifetime? What is different today than in past years? Is our culture moving toward or away from healthy sexuality?
  3. In your best understanding, what is the purpose of sex? What is admissible, and what is not?
  4. For many individuals and couples, the topic of sex is a reminder of serious hurt, frustration, disappointment and shame. In spite of this, how is a healthy and robust sex-life God’s desire for your sex-life?

Going Deeper:

  1. How has sex in many ways become the ultimate pleasure of our time? How might a Christian perspective oppose this narrative, while still identifying sex as a wonderful gift to be enjoyed?
  2. If good sex takes practice, what steps can you take with your spouse to increase the frequency in which you practice, and learn one another’s bodies?
  3. What restrictions does the Bible place on sexuality? How do sexual restrictions as biblically prescribed actually enhance sexual pleasure, and not limit it?
  4. On pg 169, Peggy Noonan shares our misunderstanding that sexual freedom and acceptance will make us a healthier species. In fact, she goes on to say that “as we’ve gotten more open-minded, we’ve gotten more closed-hearted.” What point is she trying to make here?